Beyond Tolerance
How
Can Parents Teach Beyond Tolerance?
Parents can teach this by example — and in other ways, too. Talking together about respect helps kids learn more about the values you want them to have. Giving them opportunities to play and work with others is important as well. This lets kids learn firsthand that everyone has something to contribute and to experience differences and similarities. Things parents can do include: 1. Notice your own attitudes. Parents who want to help their kids value diversity can be sensitive to cultural stereotypes they may have learned and make an effort to correct them. Demonstrate an attitude of respect for others. 2. Remember that kids are always listening. Be aware of the way you talk about people who are different from yourself. Do not make jokes that perpetuate stereotypes. Although some of these might seem like harmless fun, they can undo attitudes of respect. 3. Select books, toys, music, art, and videos carefully. Keep in mind the powerful effect the media and pop culture have on shaping minds. 4. Point out and talk about unfair stereotypes that may be portrayed in media. 5. Answer kids' questions about differences honestly and respectfully. This teaches that it is acceptable to notice and discuss differences as long as it is done with respect. 6. Acknowledge and respect differences within your own family. Demonstrate acceptance of your children's differing abilities, interests, and styles. Value the uniqueness of each member of your family. 7. Remember that tolerance does not mean tolerating unacceptable behavior. It means that everyone deserves to be treated with respect — and should treat others with respect as well 8. Help your children feel good about themselves. Kids who feel badly about themselves often treat others badly. Kids with strong self-esteem value and respect themselves are more likely to treat others with respect. Help your child to feel accepted, respected, and valued. 9. Give kids opportunities to work and play with others who are different from them. When choosing a school, day camp, or childcare facility, find one with a diverse population. 10. Learn together about holiday and religious celebrations that are not part of your own tradition. 11. Honor your family's traditions and teach them to your kid and to those outside your family who want to learn about the diversity you have to offer. When parents encourage a respectful attitude in their children, talk about their values, and model the behavior they would like to see by treating others well, kids will follow in their footsteps.
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