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Talk with your parents about sex
What Parents Talk/Don't Talk About with their Kids
10 Sex Myths You've Believed Basically Your Whole Life
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Let's talk about sex


No, really, you should. People who found it easy to talk about sex were less likely to report a lack of sexual interest, according to a new study. The researchers also found that women are more likely than men to lose interest in sex in a long-term relationship. Perhaps unsurprisingly, women who were pregnant in the last year or had more than one young child reported lower interest in sex. (Parenting is hard.) Another recent study found just 18% of women said they could achieve orgasm through intercourse alone.

Talk with your parents about sex


Think you can only talk to your friends about tough topics like sex? Think again!

Studies show that kids who get their questions answered by adults in their life have less chance of getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant as teens.

Ask these questions or others you have on your mind to get your conversation started. Which approach best describes your style.

The "To-The-Point" approach

"Can we talk? I have a question about something we learned in sex ed class."

"I think I am not developing as fast as my friends. Is something wrong with me?"

The "Round-About" approach

"Did you see that billboard about being a virgin? Should that stuff be in public where little kids can see it?"

"This talk show had some teens on who had babies and the girls were only 13 years old. Do you think teens can be good parents?"

The "Wonder If" approach

"I wonder if you think it is a good idea to learn about sex in school. Do you?"

"I wonder if kids will like me better if I do things they do even if I am not ready."

The "I've Heard That" approach

"I heard that lots of kids have had sex by high school. Is that just a rumor?"

"I've heard if you say no to sex, the person you like will break up with you. How do you say no to someone and not hurt their feelings?"

Still think talking to your parents will be too tough? Try these tips from kids your age!

  • Try writing your questions down and give your parents the note.
  • Read the question you wrote on paper out loud. That way you can hide your face behind the paper!
  • Talk to an empty chair, or your pet first or talk to the mirror to practice.
  • Make sure your little brother or sister is out of the house. You can't talk about serious stuff when someone else is listening.
  • Bring up the subject of sex when you and your mom or dad are watching a show where someone is wearing tight clothes or making out. Or if there is a soap opera on you'll have lots of opportunities then!
  • Leave this card lying around. Your mom or dad just might get the hint!

Your parents may have things to say to you about sex, values and morals and may not know how to start the subject.

Someone has to make the first move. Why not you?
Source: www.cfoc.org

10 Sex Myths You've Believed Basically Your Whole Life


Myth 1: Men think about sex every seven seconds

That would mean men think about sex 514 times every hour. At their jobs, at the grocery store, on the toilet, etc. Even though that statement alone seems flat out ridiculous, there's also research to debunk this myth. A study found people thought more about food, sleep, personal hygiene, social contact and even coffee more than sex. Plus, everyone is different so you can't say that all people—especially gender-specific—think the same way.

Myth 2: Foot size correlates with penis size

Anna (from Frozen) was right—foot size does not determine whether or not guys have big junk. Neither does having large hands, big ears, etc. However, if you really want to get scientific, there's a study that suggests the shorter a man's index finger is in relation to his ring finger, the longer his penis is...Hmmm.

Myth 3: The bigger the penis, the more sexual satisfaction

Guys really have no reason to be self-conscious about what's going on down there. In fact, guys with bigger penises actually might have a disadvantage and here's why: the G-spot is located two inches inside the vagina and is stimulated with the head, and a big penis often misses the spot completely.

Obviously, everyone has different pleasure preferences, but guys can rest assured knowing they need not be self-conscious of penis size.

Myth 4: It's impossible to conceive another baby while pregnant

OK, this is extremely rare (like, one in a few million pregnancies) but not impossible—it's called superfetation and has been documented a few times.

"Here's how it happens — egg and sperm, implant. Of course, that's your first pregnancy, says NBC's Dr. Nancy Snyderman. "But if you ovulate more than one time a month, and women do, and a sperm happens to meet that egg and they, too, implant, guess what, you get a second fetus. You just have to hope it happens within that early window."

Sooo maybe still use protection just to be safe.

Myth 5: Pulling out is always ineffective at preventing pregnancy

First of all, STDs and STIs are the first concern when your partner goes in without protection. Depending on your partner's self-knowledge and control through (and how much you trust them) pulling out can be "as effective as condoms at preventing pregnancy," according to a 2014 study. Another study says that if practiced at rockstar level, only 4 percent of couples who do this will get pregnant in a year.

Myth 6: The hymen breaks and bleeds the first time you have sex, and it's painful AF

If you've watched any teen movie, you've heard dudes dish about "popping a girl's cherry." First of all, EW, and secondly, NOPE. Not how it works.

The hymen (or the cherry, to continue the gross metaphor), don't always rip and bleed upon first penetration. While this may happen to some women, others hymens break over time through athletic activities, using tampons, etc. Furthermore, this article says that when women experience pain during sex it has less to do with hymens and more to do with nerves and tight muscles.

Myth 7: All women orgasm from penetration

Ahhhhh, that's almost laughable. According to Planned Parenthood, 80 percent of women have difficulty climaxing from vaginal intercourse alone. 80 percent! So no, there's nothing wrong with you if you feel like you're never able to climax from G-spot stimulation during sexy time. Don't worry, there are other ways to get that big O, which brings me to...

Myth 8: The clitoris is just a teeny tiny sex organ

NOPE. The part we can visibly see is about a centimeter or two long, but it actually extends inside, and that's where pleasure city happens. Most of the organ is located inside the body and is about the size of a medium zucchini. And I will leave you with that visual.

Myth 9: Only men have wet dreams

While statistically, men have more wet dreams than women, a study found that 37 percent of women reported having a "nocturnal orgasm." In fact, these sleep-gasms are pretty common, they're just not as easy to track as men's for obvious reasons.

They happen during the REM stage of sleep when blood rushes to the genital area. Whether you're fantasizing about Ryan Gosling or the donuts you had for breakfast, these dreams don't always have to be sexual, much like with men.

Myth 10: You can only lose your virginity through P to V penetration

Society has led us to believe a woman is a virgin until she's had a penis inserted into her vagina—but this is very misconstrued. Everyone has different definitions of virginity and what sex is in general, and NEWSFLASH, it's not always heteronormative.

The idea that sex is strictly penetrative contact excludes a large number of people who don't think of themselves as virgins...and their definitions will be unique to them.

Source: www.dose.com/style/28090/10-Sex-Myths-You-ve-Believed-Basically-Your-Whole-Life?li_source=LI&li_medium=dose-right-rail

Here’s Why All Teens, LGBTQ And Not, Need To Learn About Anal Sex


Teenagers must be taught that it is normal, natural and healthy, yes, healthy, and that there is nothing to be ashamed about.

Here’s Why All Teens, LGBTQ And Not, Need To Learn About Anal Sex

Teen Vogue’s recent publication of “A Guide to Anal Sex” has brought out the usual crop of right-wing, anti-LGBTQ religious conservatives who are stirring a backlash against the magazine.

Radio host and Fox News commentator Todd Starnes, one of the most outlandish anti-queer bigots on the airwaves, zeroed in on the issue this week, bringing onto his show Elizabeth Johnston, otherwise known as “The Activist Mommy.”

Johnston is an Ohio-based conservative vlogger and mother of ten children who has gained notoriety and a huge following for her campaigns against LGBTQ people, in particular attacking Target’s gender neutral rest room policy last year. A video she posted to her Facebook page in 2016 was titled, “LGBTQQIAAPP?? Asexual? Non-binary? Gobbledygook! Gender insanity! This is out of hand!.”

Johnston has predictably led the charge against Teen Vogue, with a video in which she burns copies of the magazine. She told Starnes:

I was truly flabbergasted. They should not be teaching sodomy to our children...All of us are trying to do our best to protect our children from immorality and over-sexualization in our culture. And to see this disturbing article where sodomy is being normalized, not discouraged ? even the CDC says that sodomy is the riskiest sexual behavior for getting and transmitting HIV for men and women.

And therein lies the reason why it’s so vital to talk to all teenagers, straight and LGBTQ, about anal sex and how to engage in it safely. But just as importantly, they must be taught that it is normal, natural and healthy, yes, healthy, and that it is nothing about which to be ashamed nor to stigmatize others about. Telling young people, as Johnston does, that “sodomy” is “disturbing” and a part of the “immorality” in our culture, and should not be “normalized,” is encouraging bullying, violence and discrimination against LGBTQ people.

Anal sex is, after all, a predominant form of intimacy between men who have sex with men and among many transgender women and men, and the message Johnston sends is that queer people are immoral. There is absolutely no getting around this, though Johnston told Starnes in response to Teen Vogue’s editorial director Phillip Picardi’s remarks describing the backlash as a reflection of homophobia: “We don’t hate anyone. We love the children of this country.”

If that is true, then Johnston should want to protect children, all of them , from stigmatization, as well as from STDs. Her claim about the risks of anal sex and HIV are precisely the reason why Teen Vogue should be teaching young people about safe sex of all kinds. Johnston and her ilk in fact use the risk of acquiring HIV as cover - something they’ve been doing since the beginning of the epidemic - sending an implicit message that no one should engage in anal sex, ever, because of HIV.

But by that logic women should never engage in vaginal sex because of the risks of being infected with HPV, which is far more easily transmittable than HIV, including within monogamous relationships by married heterosexual couples - which can lead to cervical cancer.

So, no, Johnston’s real fears are not about disease, otherwise she’d be talking about STD prevention and engaging in sex safely. Condemning anal sex, she calls for abstinence about sexual activity that straight and queer teens are engaging in - and that just doesn’t work. People will still engage in it, often without the proper eduction about how to do it safely. She puts all young people at risk, while stigmatizing queer people.

John Paul Brammer wrote a piece about this controversy on NBC Out that everyone should read, as it also delves into the lack of sex education in our nation’s schools and how, when there is sex education of any kind, it often excludes any discussion of LGBTQ sexuality, sometimes by state law.

Brammer spoke with Dr. Michael Newcomb of Northwestern University’s Institute for Sexual and Gender Minority Health and Wellbeing, who discusses how young people, both hetero and LGBTQ, don’t believe they’re receiving proper sex education in schools, as well as how anal sex is an activity that many heterosexual young people engage in and thus need to learn about:

We think of it as an LGBT issue, but research shows that, in part, anal sex is a power and credibility issue with heterosexual youth, where boys want to say they’ve done it with girls. Education about anal sex isn’t coming through schools, they’re not getting it.

Teen Vogue and all outlets, including Queer Voices, that have discussed anal sex - as well as LGBTQ sexuality - hopenly and honestly are providing a vital forum for young people to access information and open up a dialogue. That’s a far cry from what “The Activist Mommy” and her minions are doing, putting all young people at risk by promoting abstinence while encouraging bigotry against LGBTQ Americans.

Follow Michelangelo Signorile on Twitter: www.twitter.com/msignorile

Source: www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/all-teens-need-learn-about-anal-sex_us_5971ecb2e4b00e4363ded8da?section=us_queer-voices

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