Gordon Clay here. Did you make any New Year's resolution this year? If so, how's it goin'? I've talked to several people who have already broken at least one resolution and another who has given up on theirs completly.

In the past I would get on my case about not completing a resolution that I made to my self months earlier. But, keeping them just didn't work with where my life was shifting. Still, I'd often get to the end of the year and find myself making the same resolutions for the next year. And breaking them yet another time.

I don't make New Year's resolutions anymore. I've come to realize over the years that if I'm open to changing conditions when better information becomes available, and I change course, flip-flop if you will, then my life works better.

What I have found more valuable is to sit back at the first of each year and look back on what I have done and instead of getting on my case and feeling inadequate because of the things that I didn't complete, remember the positive moments that stand out, and appreciate myself for what I have accomplished.

I find myself reflecting on how many things I did in the previous year that weren't even on my plate at the year's onset. If I had stuck to my original plan for the year, those new opportunities probably wouldn't have even had a chance to blossom - because I had all of these other things on my plate. Well, I let go now of any disappointment and hold on to the feeling of gratitude for what I did do, regardless of whether it was on my list or not. And I go into the New Year feeling full and ready to see what will happen this year that will surprise me when I sit down on January 1, 2010 and reflect once again.

By the way. Search YouTube for The Gratitude Dance and let's all boogie down in 2009