Provide
age-appropriate information Make sure the
information you offer fits the child's age and stage. If you
are watching TV with your 8 year-old and marijuana is
mentioned, you can say, "Do you know what marijuana
is?" You
can offer your older child the same message, but add more
drug-specific information. Establish a clear
family position on drugs It's okay to say, "We
don't allow any drug use and children in this family are not
allowed to drink alcohol. We made these rules because we
love you and we know that drugs and alcohol can hurt your
developing body and make you very sick; some may even kill
you. Do you have any questions?" Be a good
example Children will do what
you do much more readily than what you say. So, don't reach
for a beer the minute you come home after a tough day; it
sends the message that drinking is the best way to unwind.
Offer dinner guests nonalcoholic drinks in addition to wine
and spirits. And take care not to pop pills, even
over-the-counter remedies, indiscriminately. Your behavior
needs to reflect your beliefs. Discuss what makes
a good friend Since peer pressure is
so important when it comes to kids' involvement with drugs
and alcohol, it makes good sense to talk with your children
about what makes a good friend. Once you've gotten these
concepts across, your children will understand that
"friends" who pressure them to drink or smoke pot aren't
friends at all. Do these things and
you'll be helping your youngster to a healthier, happier
future.